Bad days happen. & if your anything like me, they tend to happen on Mondays. Now, I can handle a bad day with the best of them, but when my Husband is having a bad day, I just want to instantly make it better. I only want good things for him and great days. I know that it is completely not reality, but I still wish it was possible. Over the past nine years, I have learned that sometimes, I can instantly fix a bad day, sometimes it takes a little time, and sometimes it is completely out of my control. Now, something I have really learned is that it takes discernment on your part to know what your husband needs most. It takes learning his personality and listening to what he needs. I will be perfectly honest, I am not always the best at discerning exactly what Kevin needs or putting away my needs to be there for him. I am constantly learning and growing in this area so that I can hopefully be a helpmate to him during rough times. Here a few things I have found to turn your Husband’s bad day around:
Flirt: Leave him a note on the door that says “I’m so glad you are home” or “i love you, I’m excited to see you”. Something that tells him you love him, and that he is home in a safe place now filled with no stress.
Give him space: This tends to be the hardest for me. I don’t like to give Kevin space, I want to be right next to him and show him affection and attention. However, that is not always what he needs. Most of the time, he needs space. Space to watch tv, or work in the yard and just forget about whatever started the bad day.
Listen: Sometimes the best thing you can do is just listen to your husband. I mean really listen, don’t try to fix the issue or give your two cents, just listen. Most of the time when others are talking, we are busy thinking about what we will say next or our opinion instead of really listening. Try it, sometimes, people just need to vent.
Laugh: Over the past six months, I have truly learned that laughter is the best medicine for sad heart. It really does lift your spirits and heal your soul. Put on a funny movie or laugh about memories you have together over dinner. Take some time to just relax and enjoy life.
Speak Life: Speak life and truth into your Husband. Sometimes, it is so easy to get down, that a few positive words of encouragement go a long way. Remind him of the good things in your life and everything you have to be thankful for. You can even make a list of your ABC’s of Thankfulness to help you focus on the good.
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