How To Serve Your Spouse

How to serve your spouseOver the past few weeks, I have become more and more uncomfortable at night with this growing little girl inside me. It has been a constant battle to find a comfy position on the couch for a movie or in bed to go to sleep. My sweet husband’s response has constantly been, “What can I do?” or “Do you want a massage?” Those two questions are music to my ears (and any pregnant lady’s for that matter). There may not be anything he can physically do to help me, but knowing his heart is wanting to, helps.

 

Marriage isn’t always about romance and it’s often not pretty, although I’m sure we all wished it was at times. Marriage is about work. Marriage is about sacrifice. Marriage is about doing the dishes, laundry, yard work and parenting together. Marriage isn’t strictly about you, it is about serving one another.

 

Without even knowing it, Kevin reminded me of what it means to serve your spouse. It is so easy to get caught up in the day to day grind and become selfish to an extent. Through Kevin’s thoughtfulness, God asked me to look at my own heart and also reminded me of  Matthew 20:20-28 (The Mother of James & John’s Request) two different times this week and John 13:1-16(Washing the Disciples Feet). I guess God was trying to get my attention with the repetitiveness. I honestly love it when something comes my attention 2-3 times in a week, it really shows me what God is trying to impress upon my heart.

 

In Matthew 20, the mother of James and John requests that her son’s sit at the right hand of Jesus. Jesus goes on to say that she doesn’t know what she is asking and that whoever wants to be greatest, must become a servant and whoever wants to be first must be a slave. And in John 13, we see that although Jesus knew that all things were under his power and that he was above all, he got up from his meal, poured water into a basin, began washing his disciples’ feet and dried them with the towel that was wrapped around his waist. And said, “Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another’s feet. I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you. I tell you the truth, no servant is greater than his master, nor is a messenger greater than the one who sent him. Now that you know these things, you will be blessed if you do them.” (John 14-16)

 

Jesus did not serve because he was beneath them, he served out of power and out of love. So, there are two ways you can approach serving your spouse – negative or positive. You can choose to count everything and argue about who does the dishes more, or you can serve one another out of love and keep no record.

 

In what ways could you be serving your spouse?

 

Here a few action steps if you feel completely lost or are just having a hard time serving out of love (because let’s face it, we don’t always want to be nice to our spouse, we are human)

 

Read 

Throughout scripture there are numerous examples of people serving one another. Take time to dig into the word and really see what scripture says about serving.

 

Pray

Pray that God would change your heart. I know it is easy to pray that God would “fix” your spouse and make them into who you want them to be, but really focus on praying for you. Pray that God would show you how to love your spouse like God loves the church. Pray that God would help you respect your spouse. Pray that He would show you ways to serve.

 

Be Intentional (brainstorm)

Brainstorm different ways you can serve your spouse. Put some thought into. Maybe take out the trash or do one of their chores. Offer a massage after a long day.

 

Act

Actually do what you brainstorm. Action means more than your thoughts… your spouse can’t read your mind.

 

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Sugarplum Lane BoutiqueWhen I found out that we were having a girl, I instantly couldn’t wait to dress her up in cute leggings, tees and headbands! Today, I wanted to introduce you to one of the first shops I fell in love with, Sugarplum Lane Boutique. Sugarplum Lane has one of a kind baby and toddler leggings, headbands, burp cloths, bibs, baby blankets, and nursery designs for your little one. Plus, they have a few little boy options as well!

IMG_3795I, of course, love the glitter gold heart leggings I have for Miss Brooke. But, I am currently swooning over the pink stripe leggings and the pink and white heart swaddle. I am so in love! Really, I could go on and on because I love their high-waist ruffle heart bloomers too!

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Avocado Ranch Dip Recipe

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Avocado Ranch DipContinuing with the theme from yesterday, I have another great game day food idea to share with you! I know, I know, tons of food talk on the blog lately – What can I say? I’m pregnant and constantly thinking about food lately. I figured a fun taco bar would be perfect one night this week. I want it to be complete with normal taco fixings and include taquitos with a “dipping” station. I figured queso, queso blanco, salsa, and avocado ranch. I love mixing avacado and queso but my avocado ranch recipe is my favorite for dipping taquitos.

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What you need:

1 avocado, peeled and pitted
3/8 cup mayonnaise
3/8 cup sour cream
3 tbs buttermilk
1/2 tbs olive oil
1/2 tbs lemon juice
1/2 green onion, chopped
1/4 tsp salt

IMG_3769Instructions:

1. Combine all ingredients and blend in blender until consistency is how you like it.

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IMG_3770 IMG_3778I am hoping that this taco bar will be a huge hit! I know everyone has loved the dips in the past, so I am assuming it will all be completely gone by the end of the night. At our last party, all four dips in the dipping station were completely gone before the game was even over so this time, I am expanding the taco bar to be a tad bigger. I figure if there are left overs, people can always take some home with them!

 

Do you have a go to dip option? I would love to hear what you make. Leave a comment below and we can call expand our taco bars!

 

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How To: Make Coke Floats

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How To Make Coke FloatsNCAA® March Madness is always a big deal in our house. We make brackets, watch games, have friends over, and eat good food. Since it is starting to warm up in San Antonio, I thought good Old Fashion Coke Floats would be a great game day option! When I went to Walmart, I saw an in-store display featuring Coca Cola NCAA Final Four Packs (16 cans) for $5 or 2 packs for $3 of the special Coca Cola NCAA Final Four Pack. They have a variety of flavors including Cherry Coke, Vanilla Coke and Coke Zero.

IMG_3714I knew these would be perfect for a snack during the games and I decided to include a topping bar with mine, so that guests could spruce theirs up a bit with goodies!

 

What you will need: 

Vanilla Ice Cream

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Favorite Toppings

IMG_3748Instructions: 

1. Fill your cup about 1/2 full with Ice Cream

2. Pour your favorite flavor of Coca-Cola into the glass (Be careful, it will foam!)

3. Add your favorite toppings (whipped cream, cherry, chocolate sauce, candies, sprinkles)

4. Enjoy!

IMG_3753I hope your guests will enjoy this yummy classic as much as mine did! I’d love to hear about what you serve at your game day parties, I am always looking for new ideas. Leave a comment sharing your favorite game day snack idea. 

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Week 32 Bumpdate

Week 32Week 32 Bumpdate

 

size of the baby: Squash – 15.2-16.7 inches (probably close to 4 pounds)

 

total weight gain: ekk… i’m guessing 20lbs.

 

gender: Girl – Little Miss Brooke Nicole Clarke!

 

maternity clothes: all day long. I prefer to be in workout shorts and a loose tank. I’m not liking jeans right now.

 

movement: She has been moving pretty consistently. I would say not as much kicking this week, more so her moving around; however, I have caught a few jabs in my ribs.

 

sleep: I have been constantly tired this week. I feel like I could take a nap at any time (although I’m not). And, it has become hard to get comfortable when I am trying to lay down at night to go to sleep. Sigh.

 

nursery: Her room is so adorable, now it just needs her! I love that it is all put together.

 

craving: I have been craving cherry limeades a lot this week but not really anything else. Maybe, pizza? I’m not sure.

 

symptoms: I am getting big. end of story.

 

kevin is: getting more and more excited that she is almost here.

 

looking forward to: our hospital tour this Sunday and our friends wedding next weekend!

 

best moments: This week was pretty low key and I loved it. I have been pretty tired all week, so I have enjoyed not having any big plans or things to do at night. I finished a lot things I have been meaning to do and checking tasks off my to-do list is always fun!

 

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