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April 8, 2013

Encourage Your Husband To Lead

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 Throughout scripture we see how we are structured, God – Man – Woman – Children. Man is not more important than Woman, we just have different roles in accordance with God. As read in scripture, the man is the “head of the wife” {1 Corinthians 11:3}, but we are suppose to submit to one another out of reverence for Christ {Ephesians 5:21}. Basically, the Man is charged with leading his household toward Christ. This is not always easy and attainable because our husbands are not perfect. But, as wives, we are charged to be our husbands helpmate. 

 

An excellent wife who can find?
She is far more precious than jewels.
The heart of her husband trusts in her,
and he will have no lack of gain.
She does him good, and not harm,
all the days of her life.
— Proverbs 31:10-12
 

 

I’m not saying that I have this down, because I feel like I am constantly failing in this area of encouragement to my hubby, but I am striving to be his helpmate and biggest fan. Here are some practical ways we can encourage our Husband’s in their role as spiritual leader of our homes.

 

5 Ways to Encourage Your Husband to Lead:

 
1. Praise Him: Verbally and publicly. For past, present and future. Let him know that you think he is a great leader and when appropriate, praise him in public for his efforts in leading. Praise him for what he has done in the past and present. Let him know you feel confident he is going to lead your family in the future. Example: “You are going to be a great dad, our children will learn so much from you biblically”.
 
2. Thank Him: Make sure to thank him when he is leading you or when you notice efforts he is making. Your acknowledgement of his efforts go a long way.
 
3. Ask Him: For advice and for wisdom. I think its easy to think that you “know” what you husband will say or advice, but “ask him” for his advice. You might get the response you were thinking, but you might be surprised and he might be encouraged that you asked.
 
4. Follow Him: Submit to his leadership and decision making. This also means respecting him and honoring him. Read this post about practical ways to respect your husband. By no means am I saying that you should not have an opinion or voice, I am simply saying to let your husband take the lead by not solving every problem yourself.
 
5. Pray for Him: To me, this is the most important. I firmly, irrevocably believe in the power of prayer. Only God has the power to change and mold your husband into who He wants him to be. Pray for your  husband’s walk, integrity, strength, fears, triumphs, failures, thoughts and actions. Pray for God to teach him how to be a good Husband and leader for your family. Also pray that you would be his helpmate, partner and source of encouragement.

 

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  • Bonnie Rose
    April 8, 2013

    I love that list. Great points for every marriage, no matter the faith. Inwould love to type that up and have it somewhere in my home. Thank you for sharing, Inlove posts on marriage. We will be renewing our vows in Aug for 10th anniversary and it’s great reading things to continue a stronger walk together.

    Bonnie Rose | A Compass Rose

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  • Rachel
    April 8, 2013

    These are great ideas! I often make a point of purposely deciding to ask my husband for advice or ask him to make a decision for us in some aspect of our lives to give him opportunities to lead us, even when I would be comfortable making a decision by myself–I purposely try to avoid doing so.

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  • Chelsea @ Married Filing Jointly
    April 8, 2013

    Great tips for every wife! Thanks for sharing! Would love you to share this at my Give Me the Goods link party today.

    ~Chelsea @ Married Filing Jointly
    http://www.marriedfiling-jointly.com

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  • Jana
    April 8, 2013

    This is great! Like you, I try to make sure I encourage my husband to be the spiritual leader in my home, but I don’t always feel like I’m doing the best job. Thanks for the extra motivation! 🙂

    Jana @ life could be a dream

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  • Katie Did What
    April 8, 2013

    I absolutely love this!! I am constantly praying for my husband and thanking him for being so great to me 🙂 It is SO important to always remember to do that! Praising him is super important too, not only to him, but when you talk about him to others!

    xo

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  • Alessandra Ferguson
    April 8, 2013

    This a great post. Definitley something I am trying to be intentional about too. Thanks for sharing!

    Reply
  • Melanie Montgomery
    April 8, 2013

    Such a beautiful post!

    Reply
  • Emily @ Newlywed Moments
    April 8, 2013

    These are such practical tips…seriously SUCH a good reminder!! I definitely need to work on the praying for him part more!!

    Reply
  • Lauren
    April 8, 2013

    Love this post 🙂 Such a great reminder and really makes you take a step back to evaluate whether or not you are doing all those things!

    Reply
  • Amie
    April 9, 2013

    What an awesome post, thanks for the tips! I also agree with you that prayer is the most important, and I definitely need to be better at praying for my husband and trusting that God will lead him where He wants him to be.

    Reply
  • Lauren Elliott
    April 10, 2013

    Love this Marquis. Especially number 3. Such wonderful reminders!

    Reply
  • Kindra
    April 10, 2013

    Love this. I’m not married yet but I needed this reminder.

    Reply
  • Becca Moss
    April 12, 2013

    I LOVE that scripture, really though, love it. I love these random blog posts. Such good reminders!

    Reply
  • Suzanne
    April 18, 2013

    Great post, great advice. On a slightly funnier/ironic note, the ad directly under the comments box is for “easy divorce mediation”. No joke! Crazy auto ads.

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  • SixtyandMarried
    July 19, 2013

    “Among all born again Christians, which includes evangelicals, the divorce figure is 32 percent, which is statistically identical to the 33 percent figure among non-born again adults, the research group noted.”
    Read more at http://www.christianpost.com/news/study-christian-divorce-rate-identical-to-national-average-31815/#tpAqEHhroeZY1d5J.99
    In my opinion, one of the reasons being that Christians simply do not read or study the bible for themselves. They continue to pass on teachings that they have simply heard from others. I would suggest that the writer discovers for herself that firstly there is no hierarchy i.e. man, woman, children. God made both men and women in his image. Genesis 1:26-27. Secondly discover what ‘head’ in Corinthians means and the meaning of ‘submit’ as affirmed by respected biblical scholars. Then ask yourself the question….if I believe that my husband is responsible for everything (poor men, no wonder so many die of heart attacks!) what am I going to do should he become invalid or worse die! Who then becomes my leader? Am I then forced to find another man to fulfil this role?

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  • Marquis Clarke
    August 8, 2013

    Respectfully, I think you are missing the point of the article. Men and women ARE equally created in God’s image and there is no hierarchy of value in His eyes. However, He has created us with specific roles to fill. Jesus, actually being God, did not consider equality with God something to be grasped tightly, but instead fulfilled His Father’s Will even unto death. He took on the role that was intended only for Him … and it did not make Him any less God. There was a role to fill. God the Father was responsible for designing the mssion and leading in getting it accomplished while Jesus (God the Son) submitted to the plan and carried out the task.
    Each woman is told to be submissive to her OWN husband, so that submission will look different in every relationship. For example, my husband wants me to be somewhat independent. It makes him feel great when I achieve something or when I am recognized for work that I have done outside of our home. However, my best friend’s husband is a pastor and he very much needs her help “behind the scenes” … and she is happy for it to be that way. A man who is an invalid will need a different kind of wife. And a man who is disobedient to God will need a different wife. Whether my husband is wonderful or awful, healthy or an invalid, obedient or disobedient … is my plan to get my own way or to do things God’s way? God’s way is that my husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. I would like to know what definition you refer to above, because I admit I don’t see many ways to interpret that. Christ is head of the church, meaning He leads, instructs, guides, inspires, empowers, strengthens, loves, nurtures, disciplines, corrects, encourages and admonishes His church. The church was created by Him and exists for Him. He is the beginning and the end of the church. Every level of every activity undertaken by the church is to be focused on Him.
    If I marry someone … commit my life to someone … expect him to love and honor and cherish us all the days of my life … why in the world would I not want to do everything possible to love, honor and respect him? Why would I not want to accept my role as a helpmeet? A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands.

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  • Era Weldhall
    October 25, 2015

    Don’t set women back 100 years. You are your own person! God created you as an individual and He wants you to find your own happiness within yourself. A relationship should be equal in every way, it is the sole premise of a healthy relationship! Make sure he thanks you, asks you for your wisdom, respects you and prays for you too!

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