On Monday, I mentioned that one of my 2015 goals was to keep my marriage a main priority with the addition of our little one in May. I have no clue what life will look come May, and I am totally content to go with the flow until we figure out how we function as a family of three. However, there are a few things I know will better our marriage in 2015 and I hope they will better yours as well.
It is so easy to get caught up in your day to day routine and forget to take time to go on dates together with no distractions. Personally, I love going to dinner and a movie or somewhere different like mini golfing. Ditch the phones, and spend quality time together.
This one might seem like a “duh”, but I mean really communicate. Take the time to ask your spouse about their day, struggles, good points, etc. It is way to easy to live in the same house and not really talk to each other. Make sure you are asking good questions, but more importantly, listening.
No phones in bed
We are so guilty of this. Really I think if we have a no phone in bed rule, then we should have a no tv rule in bed, but that is just not reality in our house. We watch tv every night as we are going to sleep and I don’t see that changing… ever. But, we could both do a better job of not being on our phones part of the time. Moderation. Baby Steps.
Eat dinner together as a family
We do a pretty good job of this, I would say we eat dinner almost every night together. I just know that it is such a good time to talk to each other and really do something as a family. Who doesn’t love food, right?
I have constantly shared on this blog that I believe prayer is incredibly powerful and has so much value for your marriage. Praying together is vulnerable and emotional. It can be challenging at first and hard to open up, but it is extremely rewarding when you do. I love getting to pray with Kevin in bed at night. It is such a great time to grow spiritually and create a strong bond between us.
I really saw first hand this past week how much this mean to me. I have been out of town or had family in town for about a month now, so Kevin and I haven’t gotten to worship together on a Sunday morning. Last Sunday, we got to worship together and it was just so joyful. It adds a different element of thanksgiving to your marriage and is such a good way to start your week!
One thing off your bucket list
Check something off. I love dreaming big with Kevin and getting to do something we have both been wanting to do. In 2014, we got to check off a New York/D.C. vacation and going to the U.S. Open Finals. It was just nice to experience to get to check a big thing off. I know that it is not always reality to get to check off a bucket list item, but it sure is fun to strive for. I think for us, this year will really just be the birth of our little miss and figuring out how to be parents!
My prayer for you is that your marriage would thrive in 2015.
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