Lets talk about the bedroom. Yep, I just said that. Your bedroom is a beautiful, sacred place for your marriage so it should be cultivated, but probably not in the way you are thinking. There are obvious marriage activities that take place in the bedroom, but are you really cultivating your marriage in your bedroom? Is it a safe place for you and your spouse? Do you live on separate sides of the bed? Do your phones get in the way? Really take a few minutes and think about these 5 Ways to Cultivate Your Marriage In the Bedroom and see what you could implement to strengthen your marriage:
Put Away Technology
This is #1!!! Put down your phones. While it can be nice to relax from your day on your phone, be sure that you have time set aside for no phones in bed. I know some people that have a no phones at all in bed policy and I think that is so awesome. Kevin and I tend to have a certain “phone time” where we play a game or catch up online, then we put our phones down. We have to be really disciplined in this, because we have a tendency to just keep working or playing games.
Talk
Do you talk to each other? I mean really talk to each other about things that matter. This is where putting your phones away is so important. You need time to catch up on each other’s day, discuss what is going on in your hearts and really spend time with one another. This is a crucial time in your day for your marriage. Communication is so important.
Pray
Another HUGE way to cultivate your marriage is to pray together at night before bed. While talking is so great, praying together opens up lines of communication between your souls. It is so intimate to pray with each other and share your heart. It is a very refreshing and just great time for each of us at night. If you aren’t sure where to start, here is a post I wrote about how to pray with your spouse.
Rest
Then, rest. Yes, shocker, you should rest in bed. I know for us, as soon as we put the kids down, we head to bed for us time and to relax. We catch up on our shows together, or play a game together on our phone. We take some time to relax and do things that we enjoy together.
Have Fun
& we have fun. Like I mentioned, we like to play a few games on our phone against each other and with each other. Before kids, we liked to play Wii together so our phones are a small replacement. The point is, we have fun doing something together. Or, sometimes, we just have fun talking to one another and catching up. Our home is a fun, safe place and we work hard to keep it that way!
These five things might sound so simple, but you would be surprised how life gets in the way. Its so easy to be on your phone too much, or be too tired to talk, or be dealing with babies getting out of bed. Life is messy at times and its a great reminder to refocus and put things in place to cultivate your marriage.