Butterflies. Love at first sight.
The excitement of the pursuit.
The thrill of the first kiss.
The passion. The SPARK.
Then, the bills – the kids – the responsibilities. Life. Life happens. Then, bad days. We all have them. And, we all have them in our marriage. Sometimes, we even have bad weeks or bad months or bad years. Sometimes stress and the anxieties of life creep into our marriages. Sometimes, we worry more about ourselves than our spouse. Sometimes we get stuck in selfishness. Sometimes no matter what we say to our spouse nothing comes out right. I know… we have been there. You just kind of get in a funk and you have to dig deep and pull yourself out – you have to put the spark back in your marriage. Here are 30 ways to put the spark back in your marriage in 30 days.
Day 1: Tell each other 5 things you love about the other person.
Day 2: Give each other full body massages.
Day 3: Share one personal goal you have right now.
Day 4: Play a board game together.
Day 5: Leave a fun note for your spouse in surprise spot.
Day 6: Share your favorite memory together.
Day 7: Go for a walk together.
Day 8: Take a dessert break.
Day 9: Have a 5 minute Dance Party.
Day 10: Do your spouses chores for them.
Day 11: No phones. 1 hour.
Day 12: Eat a meal together with no distractions.
Day 13: Hold hands.
Day 14: Write a love letter to each other.
Day 15: Pick up their favorite candy from the store.
Day 16: Recreate your first date.
Day 17: Tell your spouse your favorite thing about them.
Day 18: Re-read your vows.
Day 19: Pray together.
Day 20: Watch your favorite movie.
Day 21: Dance to your wedding song.
Day 22: Tell your spouse a reason you love them.
Day 23: Do something you both have been wanting to do.
Day 24: Tackle a fear together.
Day 25: Play a video game together.
Day 26: Have a water fight.
Day 27: Listen to worship music.
Day 28: Take fun selfies together.
Day 29: Share your favorite wedding day/honeymoon memory.
Day 30: Describe your spouse in three words, share.
If I would have jumped to the end of the story, it’s really quite simple. Its about selflessness and pursing Christ. It’s thoughtful actions to put your spouse first. It’s forming a way of life that says you are my priority. On paper, these are 30 little things, one each day. But, put into practice it is thoughtful actions each day that says I am pursuing YOU. I love YOU. You are my priority and that… is the SPARK. Its a deep love and care that means more than surface level things. So, put in the effort, it is extremely worth it!