We go through our busy days and often times, barely have a few minutes to talk to each other. Between work, and kids and other responsibilities, our days get clouded and filled to the brim. It’s easy to ask simple questions and surface level questions to get through our days without ever really talking to each other. Then, as the years go by, it’s all to easy to merely become “roomates” instead of husband and wife. But, there is one question you to ask your husband everyday to dig deeper into your lives.
What is the one question to ask your husband everyday?
I’ll admit, there are a few questions I ask my husband everyday.
How did you sleep?
What do you want for dinner?
How was your day?
Are we really watching the news again?
The list goes on and on of basic questions we ask everyday. For the most part, I would say that I think my husband and I communicate really well. However, the other night, I was sitting on the kitchen counter and Kevin asked me, “What could I be doing to be a better husband to you?”
It honestly took me off guard. I asked him for a few minutes to think about it – at that moment in time, I really couldn’t think of anything. But his question took me into deeper thought, what questions should I be asking him everyday? I think it is so easy to walk through our days and not really talk to each other about important things. Deep things, that really matter. My first thought was….
How can I be praying for you?
I have talked over and over on Simply Clarke about the power of praying for your husband, and the importance of this in your marriage. And, honestly, I pray for Kevin, but I have not made it a priority to ask him, how I can be praying for him. We might think our husband is needing prayer for his work or for something else going in his life, but he may actually have a more specific prayer request.
In that moment of awesome conversation with my husband, I could hear God whispering to me to work on this in our marriage. To work on being more intentional about really knowing each others hearts and thoughts.
I feel like its easy to “assume” that we know how we could be praying for our spouse. However, throughout asking this in our marriage oftentimes, my husbands answers have surprised me or allowed me to do deeper in prayer for him.
Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working. – James 5:16
So, today, ask your husband how you can be praying for him. (And, ask him how you can be better wife to him as well – it was a great thought-provoking question). These deeper questions pass over the everyday basic and dig in deeper to your soul. They help build a foundation of communication, friendship and venerability with each other that is incredibly sweet and a huge blessing!