Kevin is my very best friend.
He makes me laugh.
I want to spend all my time with him.
He is my safe place.
He is my Number One Fan.
I often find myself telling Kevin that he is my best friend. I am not really sure where it happened along the way (I’m assuming really early on), but he became my very best friend. I also feel very fortunate and blessed to say after over 9 years, that he is still my very best friend. I am not naive enough to think that this is the case for everyone. I know it is very real that marriages are struggling and even ones close to me. I have read countless emails of marriages where they feel like complete strangers. I have sat with friends who feel like they have lost connections with their husband. That is real life. That is reality. Marriages are hurting. People are struggling through. & it breaks my heart.
I don’t have all the answers. I know that relationships are complicated and all very different. However, today I wanted to share 4 ways I believe could help cultivate (or continue to cultivate) friendship with your husband.
1. Laugh together: This might seem obvious, but I truly believe that laughter can be the best medicine. Talk about old stories, watch a funny movie, talk about a silly subject – have fun. In the midst of our day to day life, we can get too focused on talking about serious things like bills, kids, work, etc and not take enough time to just have fun together and forget about all the serious stuff for a little bit.
2. Do things you both enjoy: Think Date Night. If you are both super busy, you might need to actually plan weekly or bi-weekly date nights just for the two of you. However, I tend to love normal day to day things the best. For instance, I love watching and playing video games with Kevin (We are nerds), but I love dinner dates too! Every once in a while, I also suggest doing something completely new. Kevin and I went to a glow in the dark miniature golf place a few months ago and had the best time! Neither of us are huge mini-golf/golf people, but it was just fun to do something new.
3. Share secrets: I love moments in bed where Kevin and I can just talk. Communication is so key and not the day to day, but really talking and sharing your heart. I like to think of middle school for this example, your best friend knew all your secrets. Now, you get to have slumber parties every night with your best friend and share secrets. perfection.
4. Show love to one another: Love really makes the world go around and I think everyone wants to feel loved to some degree. We might all like to feel it in different ways – through words, actions, kisses, hugs, gifts, etc – but it is important. Make sure you are showing your husband love.
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