Two weeks ago I sat at my computer and hit publish.
I spent so much time working on that post.
I found bible verses to support each “way”.
I listed out practical things to do.
I cited tons of other resources.
I LOVE that post.
But, as as I sat at my computer the day it went live, I read the post as a wife. I read all 14 things and the one thing that stuck out to me the most was JESUS.
Honestly, you can go through the motions of just about all of the “things” listed to be a better wife. But, in reality…
“The best thing you can do for your marriage is fall more in love with Christ.”
Yes. THE BEST THING YOU CAN DO FOR YOUR MARRIAGE is to work on your relationship with Jesus. Nothing will move mountains in your marriage like Jesus.
It sounds simple, but its so much more complex in real life, in real marriage. It isn’t easy. The truth is, most likely, you will or have walked through frustration, anger, grief, and disappointment together. And its in those seasons you see what you are made of.
You see how deep your grace is.
You see how vast your love is.
And, you see how strong your faith is.
All of these things matter. How you respond to them matters. Are you just going through the motions of being a “good wife” or are you seeking Christ first? When you seek Him, all of the other areas in your life flourish.
I heard this example one time. Pretend you are a tree. If you never get water, nothing happens. You don’t survive. On the contrary, if you get water, you thrive. You blossom or produce fruit. Just like in your relationship with Christ. When your relationship is cared for and watered, you see the fruit. You see love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self control.
There have been seasons in my life where I have tried to check off all the boxes of being the best wife I could be, but I have found that without Christ, I am selfish. I can be stubborn. I can be moody and I can want things my way. But, I have found the best thing I can do for my marriage is seek Christ.