September 13, 2017

Take Back Your Marriage: From Technology

Its time to take back your marriage! As I have mentioned the past two weeks, there are so many things begging for our attention that it is hard to find time for anything, let alone our marriage. I urged that is time to take back your marriage: from your kids, from technology, from your finances, from your busy schedule and from yourself. Join me for the next 3 weeks as we break down how to take back our marriages. While technology can be good in our lives for marriage, it can also be a distratction. Here are 4 ways to take back your marriage from technology:

Technology Free Zones

I am a firm believer in technology and use it all day long. However, I am all about setting boundaries in your life in order to have time for more important things. If you aren’t careful, you can find yourself on your phone through dinner, or watching television all night instead of even having a conversation with your family. Communication and interaction with your spouse is so important. Make that change. I like to set technology free zones for dinnertime and bedtime. While we oftentimes still watch television together in bed, we also set aside time to just talk. These technology free zones might look different for each marriage.

Don’t Compare

Another issue that can arise from technology time is comparison. This typically comes from social media. While scrolling through Instagram or looking at Facebook (and even Pinterest), you mostly only see the good. You see the picture perfect moments. You don’t see the disagreements. You don’t see the no make up mornings. You don’t see kids crying all day. You don’t see the anxiety. You don’t see burnt dinners. By constantly consuming these images all day, it is easy to start to compare your life or feel inadequate. This can do so much harm to yourself and your marriage. If you are struggling with this, here is a more in depth post about 4 Ways To Combat Comparison In Marriage.

Set Limits

Yes, I said that. You want to give your kids limits and sometimes, as adults, we need limits too. Limit how much time you spend in front of the tv. Limit how much time you surf on your phone while at home. Make time to be together. Make time for date nights. Make time for walks around the block at night. Make time to talk. Make time to enjoy each other.

Use It For Good

Like I said in the beginning of this post, use technology for good. I personally LOVE technology and so does my husband. You can use your phone to increase your communication in marriage. You can text each other throughout the day. Send each other sweet emails. Call just to check on each other. You can also use your laptop to listen to a sermon together which is something we do often. You can also have date nights watching movies together. These are just a few examples of how technology can bring you closer together.

Overall, the point to Take Back Your Marriage: From Technology is to re-focus. Make sure you are spending more time with your spouse than locked into your show or on your phone. Reprioritize your technology life together.