It is mid January already – just about this time, resolutions are already starting to fall apart. You have the best intentions, but life just has a way of getting in the way. Everyone tries to start off right, the gym is packed – fast foods lines are clear. But only for a while. Don’t let your marriage be the thing that takes a back seat in 2019. Resolve to change your habits, resolve to make Christ number one in your life, resolve to love unconditionally. Resolve to strengthen your marriage.
Lets just tackle the big one first. Finances are among the number one fights between couples. You have heard this, you know this – so tackle it head on in January! Don’t let money rule your life or come between your marriage. This does not have to be your story. I can honestly say, Kevin and I have had ZERO money fights. We have goals, we have a plan, we work our plan – we are on the same page. Check out How To Survive Money & Marriage for more details.
With all of the forms of communication available to us, you would think that we would be better at communicating; however, most of the time we are awful at it. I think we have more conversations, but not necessarily as deep or effective. We have all kinds of things trying to win over our time and attention. Work on your communication skills with each other, set times to talk about your day or set aside the weekend for important discussions. Find what works for you. – 5 Tips for Better Communication.
Learn to Listen
While this is a big part of communicating, I feel like it is so important that it gets it’s own paragraph. I have always considered myself a good listener but as I get older, it is more evident how much I really just want to voice my opinion. I have been actively working on this to make sure I am fully listening to my husband’s words. There is something beautiful about really listening to what your spouse is saying/feeling without having to get a word in or steer the conversation in your direction. 4 Ways To Be A Better Listener
Forgive One Another
Date Like You Are 16
Laughter is the best medicine. It heals your soul. I will say that this is one of my favorite things about our marriage and I consider it to be one of the things that keeps us thriving. Kevin makes me laugh everyday. We can be in the middle of a disagreement, I can furious – then he just makes me laugh. Be fun and goofy with your spouse. Have a water fight in the house. Be happy together. Lay in bed and tell old funny stories about your relationship. Smile. Laugh. Don’t take life too seriously.
“A glad heart makes a cheerful face, but by sorrow of heart the spirit is crushed.” – Proverbs 15:13
Serve One Another
Be Cautious of Technology
Keep Your Romance Alive
Yes, you are married, so yes, you should act like it. I’m not saying go all “get a room” style in public affection… but subtle public affection and “get a room” private affection. Lets face it, we were created to be intimate with our spouse. But, I believe that it means more than just showing up at night, its about the spiritual and emotional connection you experience with your spouse. It can’t be just physical, if it is, it will just be temporal and meaningless.
“My lover is mine, and I am his” – Song of Solomon 2:16
Prayer is one of the most powerful and meaningful things we can do for our marriage. Not only are we told to pray in scripture–we’re told to pray without ceasing. I want to be a praying wife. I want to cover my husband in prayer. There is also great value in praying together. I know that if you haven’t done this a lot in your relationship, it can be award. Lets be honest, you are baring your sole and confessing your sins during prayer. You are talking to a Holy God who is all knowing and all powerful. This makes prayer very intimate and venerable, so of course, it can be a bit of a struggle to do this with someone else at first. But, trust me, it is powerful. > How To Pray For Your Marriage Daily > How To Pray With Your Spouse
Rejoice evermore. Pray without ceasing. In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you. – 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
My prayer is that your marriage and mine would thrive in 2019. & for all you single ladies, my prayer is that your heart and your future husband’s heart would be filled with a love for Christ and yearning for His Word.